Dominant and submissive chat
In human sexuality, this has broadened to include mutual exploration of roles, emotions, and activities that would be difficult or impossible to act out without a willing partner taking an opposing role.
A 1985 study suggests that only about 30 percent of participants in BDSM activities are females.
Also, some submissives eschew personal pronouns, instead referring to themselves as "this slave" or "Master Bob's girl".
This is sometimes considered an expression of modesty, but it is an entirely optional method of depersonalizing a submissive during "play".
As with any other participant, the dominant's safeword call should herald the stopping of all play and the start of a recuperative discussion between the participants. It is usually a negotiated lifestyle, with people discussing their wishes, limits, and needs in order to find commonality.
A D/s relationship may be sexual or non-sexual, long- or short-term, and intimate or anonymous.
Most adherents search for the essential intensity, trust, and intimacy that are required to make any deep relationship possible.
D/s participants often refer to their activity as "play", with an individual play session being called a "scene".
A scene between two switches can involve trading off the dominant and submissive roles, possibly several times.
Negotiating limits in advance is also an important element in a D/s relationship.