Debate about online dating
s Ashley Carman and I took the train up to Hunter College to watch a debate.
The contested proposition was whether “dating apps have killed romance,” and the host was an adult man who had never used a dating app.
But according to a Pew Research Center survey conducted in February 2016, 59 percent of Americans think dating apps are a good way to meet someone.
They easily won, converting 20 percent of the mostly middle-aged audience and also Ashley, which I celebrated by eating one of her post-debate garlic knots and shouting at her in the street.
published “Tinder is not actually for meeting anyone,” a first-person account of the relatable experience of swiping and swiping through thousands of potential matches and having very little to show for it.
There’s also evidence that marriages that begin on dating apps are less likely to end in the first year, and that the rise of dating apps has correlated with a spike in interracial dating and marriages.
Dating apps may be a site of neurotic turmoil for certain groups of young people who don’t feel they need quite so many options, but it opens up possibilities of romance for people who are often denied the same opportunities to find it in physical spaces — the elderly, the disabled, the isolated.
It’s a well-argued piece by Julie Beck, who writes, “The easiest way to meet people turns out to be a really labor-intensive and uncertain way of getting relationships.